Smashing Katie | Tales From The Breakup Battlefield

A lot have people have written in about dating a younger man. Yes this may make you a cougar. And a lot of the comments coming in deal with the frustration of dating a puppy. Aside from dealing with the obvious issues in dealing with the frustration, have any of you ever asked yourselves why would you bother? You are 30 something, successful, adventurous, and wasting your time by vying for the attention of younger men.

Top reasons why you shouldn’t bother with a 20-something year old:
1- They are obsessive. Younger men have not figured out the concept of boundaries and want you all to themselves. You have a life darling, a separate life from his, and you shouldn’t have to apologize for it.
2- They are too independent. Yeah it counters number one. But young men are inconsistent with their own feelings and can be obsessive and independent at the same time. They are too independent when they forget that you are waiting on him for something. But he wants you to call him when he is waiting on you. Sorry puppy, cant have it both ways.
3- They are inconsiderate. Time management has not yet been instilled in their minds. Yes they can keep appointments at work, because their paycheck depends on it. But they are clueless that your time matters as much as theirs. A smart man will respect your time, call if he is late, reschedule if necessary, plan ahead, etc.
4- He doesn’t say sorry. I don’t care if he did something wrong or not. If someone’s feelings got hurt, he needs to say sorry for that in the least. Young men forget that saying “I am sorry, that wasn’t my intention, I think it is a misunderstanding” is very powerful. It is neutral, non-committal, and allows you to forget what faux pas just happened.
5- He says things like “psycho”. Yeah, when he screws up, you get upset, he calls you psycho. Seriously younger men, this is not an endearing way to get back into her mind. You cant throw words around like that and then say you didn’t mean it. It is a sign that you are a puppy when you say “crazy”. I could come back and tell you that I think you are an inconsiderate idiot, but that would make me look less than empathetic and stupid. So I wont, and besides I don’t mean it. You may act like a schmuck, have schmucky moments, but it is a moment in time. And we forgive you for that because you are human. You could/should/would extend the same courtesy to us.

In conclusion, puppies are puppies until you train them. I am thirty something and just don’t have the patience. I need some other sweet gal to break a man in before I get him so that he knows what to expect, understands how I think, and we can just get to the good stuff and enjoy our time together.