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From "He's just not that into you" to "Be honest, you're not that into him either" and even, "He just thinks he's not that into you", I've read them all, but refused to purchase, at the local bookstore. There are so many self-help books for the relationship challenged and I don't believe I'm one of those. I've had my share of great romances to heart-wrenching breakups. I've learned my lessons and gained enough experiences to write my own self-help book. Then why do I, as well as many women, still repeat the same pattern?
At times, I know the answer to why "he's not that into me", but I don't want to accept it and will conjure up any doubtful reason why I could be wrong. I just need to hear it from someone else or maybe I didn't learn that lesson after all and choosing the same type of men is comforting and dare I say, familiar.
I've been through it all before and I know exactly what to expect and when. The doomed relationship won't be a huge surprise when it's over. And that's why my support group of friends are so wonderful. They will give advice and warn me of things to come. When the shit hits the fan, they are there to console me. I don't need relationship books when I have friends who listen to me complain and analyze the latest man/boy situation in different, what-if versions. They give me the exact dose of "wake-your-ass-up-reality" until it sinks in and I'm finally ready to move forward. They help me break the unhealthy cycle. My friends are my backbone when I lose mine. They are my guide through the rough relationship terrain. They say it like it is and aren't nice about it. It's uncensored honesty from people who know and care and that's more than any self-help book can do for me.
-Madison, who is more than thankful to my dear friends. You know who you are.
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Hey Madison
I agee with you about friendships. I believe that's the best guage of how things really are. I think when people are in a relationship, they are somewhat blinded to the obvious. at least i know that's the case with me. And friends are so wonderful thru good and bad times. I've let me friends know how dear they are to me and how blessed my life is with their support. After divorce #1, things were pretty grim for me, after divorce #2 I used to go around saying, "the next guy I fall for is going to have to fill out a resume and meet a whole mess of criteria before i'll fall for him". *sigh* life goes on, after divorce #3, I told my friends (besides lock me up when the moon is full) that ANY guy I'm interested in will have to pass an intense panel interview with all my friends. i figure that oughta keep the bad guys away. Good Luck Madison, remember, things always change and usually it's for the better.
Don't settle for less than who/what you want.